Don’t make an ass out of you and me!
It was a beautiful, hot, blue sky day in Liverpool during May. Having arrived early for an appointment to sort out my quickly disappearing, uneven eyebrows (nobody warns you that a feature of advancing years is body hair loss – sometimes a boon!) I decided a long cool drink was in order. The nearest available place happened to be a real ale pub but it wasn’t alcohol I was after but a thirst quenching lime and soda.
At the corner of the bar stood a careworn and weather beaten gentleman who was having a bit of craic with the very pleasant and younger Irish bartender. The only other occupant was an elderly lady (I will call her Ethel) with various bags around her feet, no drink in sight. To me Ethel appeared to be waiting quietly and patiently either for someone else to come or just having a rest. It would have been very easy to assume that she was in disadvantaged circumstances, homeless even, particularly when it appeared that she had fallen asleep.
The bartender, without fuss or bother walked up to Ethel, calmly, gently spoke to her and asked if she was ok. Whilst he was doing that he pulled up a chair beside her. Eventually our bartender established that Ethel was waiting for another young bartender to arrive because he would normally carry her bags home for her (just around the corner from the pub). The bags were Ethel’s shopping bags and didn’t contain her life at all.
Just before our bartender escorted Ethel around the corner carrying her bags for her he asked the careworn gentleman to watch the bar and to pour himself a pint. When he arrived back some minutes later he had met Ethel’s husband walking towards them and coming to find her.
The point of the story being that we should never assume because it makes an ass out of u and me and that simple kindnesses happen all around us and we will see them if we open our eyes properly.
Kindnesses help us to be better human beings and elevate our self worth if we allow ourselves to process them properly. The kindest of all kindnesses is to give away your time and it is as important to be kind to yourself. How have you been kind to yourself or to other people today?
7 things you can do to be kind to yourself and to others
- Smile more (even if you don’t feel like it), this acts as an uplift for yourself and for others. It’s virtually impossible to think negatively when you are smiling.
- Use positive body language, powerful stances are proven to improve your mood within 2 minutes.
- A random act of kindness such as giving a helping hand or buying a hot cup of tea for someone on the streets not only helps others out but it lifts your self esteem.
- Don’t be afraid to communicate with people even if you don’t know them, a kind word or nod of a head goes a very long way.
- If a friend is struggling ask them how you can help, it may be they are struggling with something straightforward or if you can’t help them yourself (it may be something you have no experience with) then point them in the right direction.
- If you can’t afford to be financially involved with charitable donations, see if you can give a bit of your time volunteering. The sense of pride you can get from that also helps your self esteem so everyone wins
- Know that you are unique and totally awesome, if you don’t feel that way then there are plenty of ways that you can learn to change your beliefs about yourself. One of these ways is the Thrive Programme which will help you to learn how do that.
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